In my opinion, it is important for two people in a relationship to be strong enough that they can be a complete person to offer to another.I do not think that someone who is in a great deal of mental pain is a good candidate for a relationship.Annother: “If he or she is new to dating, there may be tears. However, the occasional emotional reminiscence is not an indication that the person is not ready to date.It just means they are learning to see themselves differently.
Many will choose to attend therapy or support groups for help dealing with their pain. When you are dating someone it should be about you and that person having a shared goal of creating a great relationship.
No one else can tell you what you are feeling, so only by being in touch with your own emotions can you know if you’re ready.
Everyone mourns differently, so widows/widowers must be careful not to let other people dictate the speed of their recovery.”“Too many variables to say what is right for anyone the old year thing is probably wise as a minimum. I didn’t quite make the 1 year wait to date thing…and I made a mess, I think I will use 5 years to remarry as a minimum.“This is variable, and having been married to a widower, been widowed and later marrying another widower as well as encountering several men on the widow/widower board, I have noticed that men seem to be ready earlier than women.
Annother:“It’s not the comparison one might assume it to be.
What I mean is that if one had a happy marriage that ended with one person dying, one might wonder if the person would approve of the person one is dating. ” When you begin to date a widow(er), keep in mind that it is completely natural for people to compare things.