Relationships that start out with this dynamic never really recover, and as months and years pass, you may find yourself in a sexless "just friends"/ roommate arrangement.
If you are crushing on a shy guy, I definitely recommend that you read The Rules, by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider.
The good news is that you don't need to be an introvert to date one.
But to keep your romantic energy in balance, you will want to follow some basic rules.
See if any of these situations sound familiar: If you identify with any of these situations, I will let you in on a secret: the “problem” in each of these scenarios is not that the man is shy or inexperienced.
The underlying issue is that he is just not interested enough in starting up a relationship with that particular woman.
Many women mistakenly assume that being overly friendly and "easy to get" will reassure the Shy Guy. Being "easy" and laying everything out on a plate will actually make him retreat further into his shell.
You'll be pursuing him, so your energy will shift from being feminine to masculine, and that's not healthy or sexy (for you or for him) in the long run.
Since you’re not approaching men (by asking for their help or inviting them for coffee), the rules will help you avoid players and pick-up artists as well as looky-loos—dudes who stare at you or flirt or “favorite” your online profile, but who never actually ask you out. And once you’re on a date, make sure you show him your most feminine, vulnerable qualities.The inexperienced man is like a turtle: when women chase after him he retreats deeper into his shell.What he responds to best is a woman with a light, feminine touch; like a beautiful butterfly, she shimmers just out of reach.The Rules definitely do work within any relationship, with any man.If a man isn’t a good fit for you, The Rules will “work” by revealing early on that you are incompatible. Study my flirting tips if you want to know how to enchant a man who tends toward a more subtle, quiet personality.
You could find yourself in an entanglement with a man who's not really sure how or why he got there.