“They’re still getting over their ex,” “they just need more time,” or (ugh) “they’re scared of commitment,” but the fact is when someone meets the right person, they can’t propose marriage, or a joint rental agreement quick enough.
But, if the courtship is long because both partners want to wait to marry for practical and well thought out reasons, then long courtship = probably good. Click here for other topics on Science of Relationships.In fact, one of the biggest risk factors for poor marital outcomes is getting married young. Part of the reason is that these folks tend to have short courtships, but it’s also the case that individuals’ identities or self-concepts tend to shift throughout adolescence and emerging adulthood.It’s very hard to know who is a good fit for you when who ‘you’ are is still shaking out.But if you’re not seeing anyone else, and you’re seeing a lot of each other what on earth is it if it’s not a relationship?One friend (who wishes to remain anonymous lest her non-boyfriend reads this) explains: “I’ve been seeing this guy for four months now – we’re dating and see each other a couple of times a week.
Rather, you’re waiting because you’re both young and there’s a lot of life ahead of you.