In addition to her stage success, Jin also became well-known because of her adoption of three children as a single mother. And the family was soon joined by Vivian and Julian, now 8 and 7, respectively. No more wild party girl.” And then on a long transcontinental flight, she met a German businessman in the seat next to her in first class who is reported to have immediately fell for her, and later accepted both the fact that she was once a man, and that she was a single mother of three children.In China adopting children and being a single mother are both rare, and Jin is considered exceptionally courageous. In an interview on CNN, Jin said: “Children immediately centered me, grounded me. Upon recalling their encounter, Heinz-Gerd Oidtmann, who is now her husband, told the media that he was “swept away by the fantasy that was Jin Xing.” Although he was stunned by her “big package of the past”, after spending some time on his own, he went back to her and made ready to spend their lives together.Over the following year she made a full recovery and eventually — and rather miraculously — returned to the stage as a woman. She founded her own modern dance troupe in Shanghai, and her story brought her nationwide fame.She was invited to be a judge on a local version of the show ‘So You Think You Can Dance’.What adds more flavour to this apparently fairytale story, is how open and confident Jin appears to be about her past and the nature of her parenthood, sexuality, gender, and family.
Her father was a staff officer in the People’s Liberation Army, a highly privileged position in China, and her mother a translator.In the show, parents sit on chairs that move forward when they approve of one of the single girls on stage.Emphasis is put on youth (under 30), good looks, simple past relationships, a good career, a gentle attitude and family-centered values. When a girl with a doctorate degree stepped on the stage, the following caption appeared on screens: “but where’s the good looks that we agreed on?The doctors were adamant that Jin would have trouble walking again, let alone dancing. In an interview with Hollywood Reporter, Jin described this period as the most difficult of her life: “I almost committed suicide.I wanted to become a woman, but I didn't want to be handicapped. Maybe I needed to sacrifice more to get to what I wanted. If it was so easy, everyone would do it.” Her military experience proved to be useful and her own resilience paid off: after being released from the hospital in 1995, Jin immediately began intense physical therapy.